You're Engaged! Top 5 Things to do First
Updated: May 11, 2021
Congratulations - you're engaged! This is a moment you and your partner have been talking about for months. Where it will happen, what the ring will look like... but now that your resounding "YES!" has been shouted from the rooftops, what happens next?
After 5 months of engagement, my fiancé Jordan and I have a few recommendations to make the most of the experience, starting with the most important...
1. Soak in the Moment A proposal is a tremendous, exciting, and sometimes overwhelming experience. Take your time soaking in the moment. Enjoy all of your feelings by allowing yourself to scream, cry, and hug your partner uncontrollably. Soon enough the big news will spread, so savoring this moment with your partner is extra special.
2. Take Photos Mine and my fiancé's engagement took place during a photoshoot (very clever Jordan); however, if you're like most couples, it doesn't. Even if the actual proposal itself isn't captured, take several photos together afterward. Take photos of the exact location they proposed, your initial reaction, the new engagement ring, and a nice image of the two of you. You can never have too many photos of this occasion!
3. Pray Together After Jordan proposed, my family threw an impromptu engagement party. In just a matter of hours, the house was filled with family and friends. Before anyone arrived to celebrate, I grabbed Jordan and said "let's pray." We found a quiet room in the house, held hands, and bowed our heads. For us, it was top priority to thank God for the amazing moment we were having and ask that He bless our engagement and future marriage. It was also a special moment for us to commit ourselves to the Lord and start our engagement on what means the most to us, our faith.
4. Write the Story Every couple has intentions to remember pivotal moments in their relationship. While the big picture is remembered, small details are easily forgotten. After our proposal, Jordan and I typed the story of how it all happened. Though its only been five months, rereading our story reminds me of details that have already began to slip my memory. I also love how Jordan wrote about moments I didn't experience, like buying the ring and asking my parents' permission. I can't wait to read and reminisce the story 50 years from now!
Aside from simply writing the proposal story, you may also want to invest in an "engagement journal." I was gifted this amazing journal as an engagement gift and it's such a treasure. It's perfect for filling out all the details to reminisce on for years to come.
Other Fun Engagement/Couple Journals to Consider:
The Bride-to-Be Book: A Journal of Memories from Proposal to "I Do"
A Year of Us: A Couples Journal - One Question a Day to Spark Fun and Meaningful Conversations
As We Grow: A Modern Memory Book for Married Couples
5. Share the News My final tip is entirely up each couple's preference! Jordan and I were adamant about sharing the exciting news with as many people in person/over FaceTime as we could. We began by telling our immediate family members at the engagement party and videochatting extended family and friends. We videotaped several calls to remember their sweet responses. Their reactions were priceless and it was a completely free way for us to have even more memories saved for the future.
Once you've completed all five of these tips, take a moment to really enjoy yourselves. This is an entirely new stage of life. You and your partner are in for a wild and exciting ride. It only gets better from here!
Click here to see more photos of our engagement announcement.